Navigating Support, Boundaries, and Self-Respect
In every family, we often find those who genuinely support us and those who may unintentionally burden us with expectations. Many parents deeply want their children to turn to them in times of need, providing not only physical but emotional support. These are the parents who love without keeping score; they help out from the heart, offering understanding, guidance, and a steady presence during both highs and lows.
Then there are parents (and other family members) who help in a way that comes with strings attached—helping with money, providing a reference, or doing a favor, but reminding you of their support when it suits them. The expectation of repeated thanks or acknowledgment can turn acts of kindness into sources of stress, especially when it seems like their love or pride depends on your gratitude.
And this isn’t exclusive to family; it happens in friendships and other close relationships too. It’s common to hear, “Family is everything,” but sometimes the people who feel like family aren’t related by blood. They’re the ones who build us up, who speak life into us, and who encourage us toward growth and positivity.
When blood relatives drain us or make us feel “less than,” it’s okay to consider setting boundaries. Boundaries aren’t about cutting people off; they’re about protecting our mental health and self-respect. Healthy boundaries help us honor our time, our emotional energy, and our personal growth.