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How can you understand Suicide?

When someone you care about attempts to take their own life, it can stir up a variety of major intense feelings for them. In times of turmoil, your dear one may have felt or believed they were a weight on you and those who care for them.

Witnessing a loved one trying to take their own life can elicit a variety of powerful feelings. You might experience feelings of anger, sadness, or fear.

You might be feeling concerned about the future of your loved one. You might sense that you have gone through a traumatic event personally. Seeking support and prioritizing self-care is crucial

“Does it imply they are out of the woods once they are released from the hospital?” NO, it’s so important that they continue with therapy and to share any suicidal thoughts with their healthcare provider.

Be calm and kind. Do not feel disheartened by obstacles or gradual healing.
The recovery journey varies for everyone.
There is no timeframe when one got to the point of wanting to die. They didn’t get to that darkness overnight, so their healing won’t happen overnight, it will take time.

Time is the greatest gift you can give someone in recovery. Time to spend with them to ensure that they know you are there no matter what. Also, show them some grace, allow them time and really emphasize your love for them. Simply be present for them even if you are at a loss for words. Understand that though you may be uncomfortable they too, feel uncomfortable because they feel embarrassed and ashamed.

For the initial weeks, they require your constant presence. There are numerous ways to connect with others besides meeting in person, through technology like Skype, phone calls, texting, and social media. Of course, face-to-face interaction is ideal, but this offers alternative methods of communication.

Amidst their crisis, your loved one may have felt isolated, and they didn’t want to be a burden on you and those who care for them.

And maybe one of the hardest parts in all of this is trying to understand something that doesn’t always make sense. Suicide isn’t always about wanting to die—it’s often about wanting the pain to stop. And when someone reaches that point, it means they were carrying more than they knew how to hold.

That’s why compassion matters so deeply here. Not just in the immediate aftermath, but in the days, weeks, and months that follow. Because healing doesn’t happen all at once. There may be good days, followed by hard ones. Moments of hope, followed by moments of quiet struggle. And that doesn’t mean they’re going backwards—it means they’re human.

If you’re walking alongside someone in this season, remind yourself that you don’t have to have all the answers. You don’t have to fix what feels broken. Your presence—your willingness to stay, to listen, to not walk away—that is more powerful than you may ever realize.

And if you’re reading this as someone who has been in that place… who has felt that depth of pain… I want you to know this: your life holds value, even in moments where it doesn’t feel like it does. The thoughts may feel loud, but they are not the truth of who you are.

Understanding suicide isn’t about having perfect clarity—it’s about choosing compassion over judgment, patience over urgency, and love over fear.

Because sometimes, the most important thing we can do… is simply stay.

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